Constant nit-picking criticism, humiliation, threat, coercion, denial, evasiveness? Read this
"If you've worked with sex offenders - people who have
committed these offenses again and again and again - you know that we do not in psychiatry
and psychology have a way to change sexual orientation. People who molest kids, for
example, they've done it and they've done it and they've done it and they haven't
been caught for a fraction of what they've done. To turn these people back into the
community knowing that we have nothing to offer that is going to ensure the safety of kids
(Dr Stanton E Samenow, author of Inside the Criminal Mind and Straight Talk about Criminals
quoted in Obsession by former FIB agent and profiler John Douglas and Mark Olshaker)
Statistics show that between 1 in 3 and 1 in 4 girls will be molested during childhood and between 1 in 5 and 1 in 6 boys will be molested. Often the trauma caused by childhood sexual abuse blights a person for life and can lead to suicide. The UK has the highest suicide rate in Europe with 5000 deaths a year. Suicide is the number one cause of death for boys aged 18-25.
A four-year £13 million investigation into sexual abuse at children's homes in north Wales during the 1970s reveals that up to 750 youngsters - some as young as seven - were subjected to "an obscene and random catalogue of violence and cruelty". At least 12 suicides have resulted. Child abusers work in networks and children from the homes were fed to police officers, civil servants and businessmen over a period of 20 years. Up to 150 adults were involved but only a dozen or so have been jailed.
February 2000 saw the launch of the Moira Anderson Foundation. Funded by profits from the sale of Sandra Brown's excellent book Where there is evil, the Foundation has been created in memory of an 11-year-old girl who disappeared in Coatbridge, near Glasgow, Scotland, in February 1957. Where there is evil (Macmillan, 1998) tells the inspirational story of one woman's attempts to bring the murderer to justice over 30 years later.
Research by the UK Home Office published this week (18 February 2000) suggests that the 6,000 rapes and 18,000 indecent assaults reported to the police in 1996 plus the third of sex assaults reported to the police which are not recorded by them as crimes represent probably only one tenth of the actual number of sex attacks. This suggests that the true figure for UK sex crimes is between 118,000 and 295,000 a year.
In at least 10% of cases reported to the UK National Workplace Bullying Advice line, the serial bully is also suspected of being involved in abuse outside the workplace. Abusers have the ability to blend in with society and their behaviour, which often includes inappropriate sexual attitudes, often goes unnoticed; however, such people have a clearly identifiable profile which I have defined at workbully/serial.htm - see who you recognise from the description.
Bully OnLine is a gold mine of insight and information on bullying which identifies the different types of harassment and bullying, and exposes the main perpetrator, the serial bully. Everyone knows at least one person in their life with the profile of the serial bully.
Have a look through this web site to recognise the bullies and bullying in your life ... start with Am I being bullied? then move on to What is bullying? To find out what you can do about bullying, click Action to tackle bullying. Have a look at the profile of the serial bully which is common to abusers, sociopathic managers, harassers, stalkers, rapists, violent partners, pedophiles, even serial killers of the organized kind.
If bullying and harassment have caused injury to your health, commonly diagnosed as "stress", see the page on injury to health and the one on the psychiatric injury of trauma, a collection of symptoms congruent with the diagnostic criteria for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD.
The Association of Child Abuse Lawyers is a non-profit organisation which provides practical support for lawyers and other professionals working for adults & children who have been abused.
The Broken Spirits Network is an online community and support group that focuses on aiding both current and past victims of child abuse, sexual abuse, and domestic violence. Broken Spirits provides a comprehensive list of shelters, hotlines and organizations that can provide help for potential victims.
New! www.verysafechild.net is a new website aimed at preventing child sexual abuse. If you have children or grandchildren please have a look!
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