Constant nit-picking criticism, undermining, isolation, exclusion, aggression, denial, refusal to value? Read this
Bully in sight
How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying
Overcoming the silence and denial by which abuse thrives
Foreword by Diana Lamplugh OBE
Paperback, 16 chapters, 384 pages, resources, index
"Will be eagerly read by those waiting for an
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"After more than a decade of bullying which subtly but steadily increased in intensity it got to the point where I didn't care whether I was alive or dead."
"I saw him [the bully] in a garden centre one day cowering behind his wife. But for my husband restraining me, I think I would have picked up a spade and hit him with it. I had to go and lock myself in the car for a while for fear I might do something stupid."
Employees quoted in Bully in sight
is a resource for survivors of bullying and harassment, as well as counsellors, therapists and anyone helping others tackling bullying.
In this ground-breaking book, you will learn
Bully in sight is in two parts; part one describes and defines bullying, part two tells you what you what action you can take.
Part 1: what is bullying?
Chapter 1: overview, common excuses and euphemisms, why bullying happens, what can be done
Chapter 2: bullying in education, the consequences of the imposition of league tables, the disastrous effects of OFSTED
Chapter 3: what bullying is, how bullying manifests itself, the predictable process of bullying, what to do about it, serial bullying, bullying phases, bully behaviours, how bullies get away with it, denial
Chapter 4: characteristics of the bullying manager, bully behaviours
Chapter 5: the bully's hold explained, physical bullying, maintaining the hold, conscience, compulsive lying, psychopathic personality, bully sayings, bully profile, facing up to the bully
Chapter 6: bullying strategies and tactics revealed
Chapter 7: how the target of bullying thinks, feels and reacts, how bullies select their targets, resistance to subjugation, what to watch out for, how and why people put up with bullying, profile of the bullied person
Chapter 8: effects of bullying on health, hypervigilance, the downward spiral, thoughts of suicide, the mental health trap, mental illness, stress breakdown, shock, trauma, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Prolonged Duress Stress Disorder (PDSD), stress and the body, ill-health resulting from bullying, effects on relationships, recovery, recognition and validation, moving on
Chapter 9: cost to the employer, poor productivity and performance, cost to the State, public sector, cost to the individual and family
Chapter 10: identifying the causes of bullying, what stimulates bullying, corporate bullying, inflexibility and imposition, benefits of regular reorganisation, perceived poor management, cutting costs by cutting staff, abuse of work force, image, culture, clues to look for, why people bully, patterns set in childhood
Part 2: how to challenge and combat workplace bullying
Chapter 11: how to identify and expose the bully, the 15-step unmasking process
Chapter 12: standing up for yourself, options, making a choice, behaving assertively, simple and effective assertive defences against the bully, handling criticism, dealing with guilt
Chapter 13: what to do if you're being bullied, practical advice from co-operation through conciliation, mediation and negotiation to confrontation and legal action
Chapter 14: using the law, laws relevant to bullying, the UK court system, industrial tribunals, what you need to know about constructive dismissal, time limits, previous tribunal decisions, case law relevant to bullying, liability, predecessors, preparing your case
Chapter 15: the nine moral issues raised by bullying
Chapter 16: taking action, the way forward, why employers need to take action now, backlash, helping the target, helping the bully, action for employers, setting up a non-bullying policy, the law and bullying, society's way forward
Resources: recommended reading, details of groups fighting bullying,
organisations to contact
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