Half the population are bullied ... most only recognize it when they read this
Foreword by Diana Lamplugh OBE
Paperback, 16 chapters, 384 pages, resources, index
Written with the experience and insight only a fellow experiencer can impart, Bully in sight validates the experience of bullying when everyone else is denying it. Packed with insight, ideas and direction, plus sources of help and suggested further reading.
"Will be eagerly read by those waiting for an
update [to Andrea Adams' book]"
Times Educational Supplement
"Powerful, compassionate, practical" Nursing Times
"Gives you the knowledge, insight and confidence to tackle bullying."
"[With Bully in sight] Tim
Field is establishing himself as one of the world's leading authorities on workplace
Every page I open at random is a feast! (DE)
"Probably the most authoritative, comprehensive and insightful book on bullying available."
"I'd have gone under without it."
"Extraordinary... rarely in my life have I read a book with such impact."
"Thank you for writing Bully in sight ... it's like a torch in the darkness."
"If only I'd had your book two years ago..."
(Survivors of bullying)
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For those being bullied, Bully in sight...
For those tackling bullying, Bully in sight...
"After a long meeting at which I portrayed my boss's behaviour for what it was - that of a bully - and described how I now felt, he then suggested that I was perhaps `mentally ill'. Unfortunately I didn't have the wit or insight at the time to make it unambiguously and unequivocally clear that the state of my mental health was a direct consequence of his behaviour. In missing this opportunity, I was in danger of falling into the mental health trap. I was fortunate that his amateur diagnosis was treated with the contempt it deserved by the health professionals within the company. Many people are not so fortunate"
"It felt as though our company had developed an unwritten policy that achievement of budget targets was paramount, and if there were a few human casualties on the way, that was unfortunate, but an acceptable price to pay. As one of the casualties, I beg to differ."
Employees quoted in Bully in sight
In this pioneering book, you will learn:
- what workplace bullying is, where, why and how it goes on
- if you're being bullied, over 80 ideas for taking action against bullies and bullying
- simple but effective phrases to defend yourself against the bullies
- how to regain control, dignity and self-respect
- how to use existing law to obtain justice, including relevant case law to quote
- how bullies get away with it again and again - and what you can do about it
- how to successfully defend yourself against unjustified disciplinary actions
- the predictable bullying process, common bully tactics, and how to counter them
- the foreseeable horrific psychiatric injuries caused by bullying
- how to spot the mental health trap - and turn it to your advantage
- how to tell the difference between mental illness and mental injury - and how knowing this can dramatically improve your chances of a successful outcome with compensation
- advice on how to recognise the symptoms of bullying, even when the victim cannot explain what is happening to them - and why
- the principal reasons why and how bullies target their victims
- the nature of the hold that bullies exert over their targets
- guidance on how to tell who is lying when it's one word against another
- why bullies bully whilst others become targets
- the reasons why people "allow" bullying to go on
- the difference between management and bullying
- the circumstances that stimulate and perpetuate bullying
- why bullying has got a lot worse in the last ten years - and will continue to get worse
- how to arm yourself with knowledge to avoid being bullied in future
- an answer to the perplexing question of why bullies see their target as a threat when no threat exists
- if you're a bystander or observer, learn to see through the superficial air of normality to see the hidden abuse
- how bullying behaviours are present behind prejudice, discrimination, harassment, abuse, persecution, conflict and violence
- the different types of bullying, including corporate bullying and serial bullying
- the nine moral issues raised by bullying and on which society must derive a consensus
- for employers: find out how much the serial bully is costing you, and what to do about it
- to appreciate the true cost of bullying to taxpayers, families, employers, society & State
Bully in sight is in two parts; part one describes and defines bullying, part two tells you what you can do about it.
Part 1: what is bullying?
Chapter 1: overview, common excuses and euphemisms, why bullying happens, what can be done
Chapter 2: bullying in education, the consequences of the imposition of league tables, the disastrous effects of OFSTED
Chapter 3: what bullying is, how bullying manifests itself, the predictable process of bullying, what to do about it, serial bullying, bullying phases, bully behaviours, how bullies get away with it, denial
Chapter 4: characteristics of the bullying manager, bully behaviours
Chapter 5: the bully's hold explained, physical bullying, maintaining the hold, conscience, compulsive lying, psychopathic personality, bully sayings, bully profile, facing up to the bully
Chapter 6: bullying strategies and tactics revealed
Chapter 7: how the target thinks, feels and reacts, how bullies select targets, resistance to subjugation, what to watch out for, how and why people put up with bullying, profile of the bullied person
Chapter 8: effects of bullying on health, hypervigilance, the downward spiral, thoughts of suicide, the mental health trap, mental illness, stress breakdown, shock, trauma, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Prolonged Duress Stress Disorder (PDSD), stress and the body, ill-health resulting from bullying, effects on relationships, recovery, recognition and validation, moving on
Chapter 9: cost to the employer, poor productivity and performance, cost to the State, public sector, cost to the individual and family
Chapter 10: identifying the causes of bullying, what stimulates bullying, corporate bullying, inflexibility and imposition, benefits of regular reorganisation, perceived poor management, cutting costs by cutting staff, abuse of work force, image, culture, clues to look for, why people bully, patterns set in childhood
Part 2: how to challenge and combat workplace bullying
Chapter 11: how to identify and expose the bully, the 15-step unmasking process
Chapter 12: standing up for yourself, options, making a choice, behaving assertively, simple and effective assertive defences against the bully, handling criticism, dealing with guilt
Chapter 13: what to do if you're being bullied, practical advice from co-operation through conciliation to negotiation, confrontation and legal action
Chapter 14: using the law, laws relevant to bullying, the UK court system, industrial tribunals, what you need to know about constructive dismissal, time limits, previous tribunal decisions, case law relevant to bullying, liability, predecessors, preparing your case
Chapter 15: the nine moral issues raised by bullying
Chapter 16: taking action, the way forward, why employers need to take action now, backlash, helping the target, helping the bully, action for employers, setting up a non-bullying policy, the law and bullying, society's way forward
Resources: recommended reading, details of groups fighting bullying,
organisations to contact
Survivors of bullying say after reading Bully in sight:
"Reading Bully in Sight is like winning the
lottery... the sense of relief is indescribable."
"I started using a highlighter pen to remind me of the key passages and now the entire book is a mass of dayglow yellow."
"I can't thank you enough for writing Bully in sight."
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