differences between bullying and management
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The difference between bullying and management
How to recognise a bullying manager in your organisation

Can you recognise a bully in the ranks? Use this table to spot the serial bully in your organisation. How much damage is this employee doing to your business, your productivity, your profitability?

Manager Bully
Leader Bully, coward
Decisive Random, impulsive
Has a good appreciation of short, medium and long term needs, goals and strategy Rigidly short term, often no more than 24 hours
Accepts responsibility Abdicates responsibility
Shares credit Plagiarises, takes all the credit
Acknowledges failings Denies failings, always blames others
Learns from experience and applies knowledge gained from experience to improve business, communication, language and interpersonal skills Has a learning blindness, cannot apply knowledge gained from experience except how to be more devious, manipulative, and how to better evade accountability
Consistent Inconsistent, random, impulsive
Fair, treats all equally Inconsistent, always critical, singles people out, shows favouritism
Respectful and considerate Disrespectful and inconsiderate
Seeks and retains people more knowledgeable and experienced than self Favours weaker employees, recruits henchmen and toadying types
Values others Unable to value, constantly devalues others
Includes everyone Includes and excludes people selectively
Leads by example Dominates, sets a poor example
Truthful Economical, uses distortion and fabrication
Confident Insecure, arrogant
Behaviourally mature Behaviourally immature
Emotionally mature, high EQ (emotional intelligence) Emotionally immature, very low EQ (emotional intelligence)
Good interpersonal skills Poor interpersonal skills
Good etiquette Poor etiquette
Balanced objectivity Exclusive self-interest
Cares about staff, the business, etc Cares only about self
Respects clients Is contemptuous of clients
Gets on well with people at all levels and from all backgrounds Identifies only with clones of himself or herself
Assertive Aggressive
Delegates Dumps
Builds team spirit Divisive, uses manipulation and threat
Uses influencing skills Alienates, divides, creates fear and uncertainty
Motivates Demotivates
Listens, guides, instructs Tells
Has high expectations (that staff will do well) Has low expectations of everybody
Shares fairly Controls and subjugates
Shares information freely Withholds information, releases selectively, uses information as a weapon
Always strives for clarity Revels in confusion, divide and rule etc
Allows and trusts people to get on with the job Constantly interfering, dictating and controlling
Only addresses genuine performance issues and then focuses on performance and behaviour Makes false claims about alleged underperformance and focuses on the person, not behaviour or performance
Focused on the future Obsessed with the past
Respected Loathed
Sets a good example Sets a bad example
Has good moral code and moral integrity Amoral behaviour, no integrity
Has honesty and integrity Exhibits hypocrisy and duplicity
Rarely uses the disciplinary procedures Frequently imposes verbal warnings and written warning without justification

More information

The cost of a bullying manager.

Facts, figures, surveys and the cost of bullying to industry, taxpayers and society.

Profile of the serial bully.

How the bully encourages work colleagues to gang up on another employee.

Why targets of bullying find it impossible to stand up for themselves.


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